🌑 When Wanting Costs Love: (3-Week Shadow Work Journey)

“When Wanting Costs Love” is a 3-week shadow work journey into the hidden conflict between desire and belonging.

Many people feel torn between love and their personal truth — believing that going for what they want means hurting, disappointing, or losing someone. This series helps participants meet the inner parts behind this struggle: the one that silences desire to stay safe, and the one that burns bridges to stay free.

Through parts work, somatic exploration, and guided integration, Norma guides participants to reclaim their right to want — without guilt, self-abandonment, or destruction.

Each week stands alone yet connects to a larger transformation arc from fear → liberation → wholeness.

WEEK 1 — The Split: Why Wanting Feels Dangerous   

 Sunday 9th November (6 hours, includes plant-based lunch)

🕘 9:00 AM – 4:00 PM

Theme: Reclaiming the right to want.
Focus: Understanding how early experiences made desire feel unsafe.

Description & Disclosure:
So many of us learned that wanting too much leads to rejection or conflict — that being “too much” costs love. In this first week, we gently uncover the memories, beliefs, and protective strategies that made desire feel unsafe. Through guided shadow inquiry, somatic grounding, and parts dialogue, you’ll learn to meet the voice that silences your wants and understand what it’s trying to protect.

Emotional material around guilt, shame, and unmet needs may surface, but the process is guided with trauma-informed care and self-regulation support. Participants are encouraged to move at their own pace, with full permission to rest, observe, or share only what feels aligned.

Experience:

• Discover where you silence your wants

• Meet the parts that fear desire

• Restore permission to want what you want

You’ll leave with:
✨  You’ll leave with clarity and A felt sense of safety in your own desire
✨ Clarity about how you learned to disconnect from what you want
✨ A renewed permission to want — without guilt or fear of loss

WEEK 2 — The Fire: When Freedom Burns Connection  

 Sunday 16th November (6 hours, includes plant-based lunch)

🕘 9:00 AM – 4:00 PM

Theme: Healing the part that destroys to be free.
Focus: Meeting “The Burner” — the protector who ends things to avoid control.

Description & Disclosure:

Freedom can sometimes feel safer than love — especially when love once meant control or suffocation. This week, we work with the inner rebel: the fiery protector who pushes away closeness to stay sovereign. Through guided parts dialogue, emotional release work, and somatic practices, you’ll explore how rebellion once kept you safe, and how to transform it into empowered, conscious autonomy.

Because this session invites strong emotions, grounding techniques and containment rituals are integrated throughout. Participants may notice feelings of anger, grief, or defiance arise; these will be met as sacred energy ready to evolve — not suppressed or judged.

Experience:

• Dialogue with the part that fears entrapment

• Transform rebellion into sacred autonomy

• Learn to channel fire into conscious liberation

You’ll leave with:
🔥 Tools to express fire without burning bridges
🔥 Freedom that feels grounded, not isolating
🔥 A deepened sense of inner sovereignty and trust in connection

WEEK 3 — The Bridge: Choosing Desire Without Guilt    

 Sunday 23rd November (6 hours, includes plant-based lunch)

🕘 9:00 AM – 4:00 PM

Theme: Integrating freedom and belonging.
Focus: Learning to stay connected while being true to yourself.

Description & Disclosure:
 

The final week brings integration — a bridge between your truth and your relationships. Here we practice what it means to express wants with care, stay authentic while staying connected, and release the guilt that once made pleasure or individuality feel selfish. Through reflective dialogues, partner-based practices, and closing rituals, you’ll anchor a new pattern of love that includes your full self.

Some exercises may invite gentle interpersonal sharing; all consent, pacing, and boundaries are fully respected. You may participate verbally or quietly observe — all ways of being are honored.

Experience:

• Practice expressing wants with honesty and care

• Release guilt around pleasure and individuality

• Anchor new patterns of authentic connection

You’ll leave with:
💞 Confidence to voice your truth without guilt
💞 Embodied experience of loving without losing yourself
💞 Integration tools to sustain authenticity and belonging in daily life

🎟️ Ticketing

• 6-Hour Workshops (includes plant-based lunch) → 1,200K IDR (Early Bird) | 1,500K IDR (Regular)

• Full Journey Bundle (3 sessions) → 3,300 IDR

  ✨ Early Bird valid until 72 hours before each event